tween girls

Girls Showing Us the Way

Written on December 27, 2011 at 12:26 pm , by

Let’s look to girls to inspire all of us as we end this year and get ready for the new one! Check out four year-old Riley protesting to her dad in a toy store about the usual assortment of pink non-superhero toys for girls. Riley teaches all of us to never lose our passion for speaking out when things aren’t right. Even though I don’t have daughters, you can bet I’m showing this to my 8 and 11 year-old sons to show them how much I respect girls for speaking out against sexism.

The second video is a co-presentation at the TedXWomen conference by my colleague, Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out and founder of the Girls’ Leadership Institute, and 8th grader Claire Sannini.

Again listening to girls is inspiring. Claire speaks so powerfully about being a girl in this culture and reminds us of what we all deserve. Claire describes the painful and damaging cycle of trying to please a peer group in spite of their constant rejection. When she realizes she’s sacrificing her self-esteem, she leaves those relationships and develops friendships that are more authentic and healthy for her.

For all of us, Claire’s story is an opportunity to ask ourselves about the quality of our own relationships with the people that are most important to us. Are they based on mutual respect and dignity? And like Claire, if we find ourselves in unhealthy patterns, what can we do to develop better relationships that bring us up instead of tear us down?

Riley and Claire should be our role models. I know they’re now some of mine. Happy new year!

Trend Alert: Tween Girls Decorating Inside of Lockers

Written on October 11, 2011 at 4:38 pm , by

When I was in middle school our locker decorations were pretty simple and, I now realize, really boring. I put up pictures of my friends, a mirror and maybe a dry-erase board if I was lucky. These days, though, girls can create a miniature room of their own with great new accessories available today.

According to the New York Times, this growing trend includes more than just a photo of the latest heartthrob (Justin Timberlake when I was growing up). Girls across the country are outfitting their school lockers with miniature furry carpets, lamps and chandeliers (like the ones above), mirrors, decorative flowers and magnetic wallpapers in all kinds of fun colors and patterns.

Two moms even started the company LockerLookz, creating some of these fun products for kids, after other moms admired the creative way they helped their daughters decorate. On the site, you can get wallpapers, fashion bins, mirrors, dry-erase boards, flowers, rugs, lamps and those super-adorable chandelier in patterns like zebra or polka dots in bright colors.

But some think the trend goes too far and takes the focus away from books (what should traditionally be kept in your locker).

Tell us, momsters: What do you think? Is this a fun trend you’d let your daughter try out or do you find it kind of ridiculous? Share with us in the comments below!