The divorce process is hard on everyone, but a protracted one can do even more damage. "My parents were in court for 10 years," says Angela. "It was terrible for my siblings and me." But it doesn't have to be that way: Tull found that collaborative divorces take 18 weeks on average, a quarter of the usual time.
Another advantage, says Stuart Webb, CD creator and coauthor of The Smart Divorce (Hudson Street Press), is that you can set your own pace, not subject to the schedules of lawyers and judges. Angela's divorce was so quick and amicable that she and her ex were able to spend Christmas together with their kids, just months after everything was final.