Strength in Numbers
We all need at least one friend who really gets us. Someone with whom we can just be ourselves. So it's no surprise that only 4% of you said you had no one to fill that role. Many of you have enough close friends to fill an SUV—and drive to a spa getaway.
52% of women said they had between three and five friends.
19% of women said they had six or more.
The majority of you said you’ve got a BFF within yelling distance. (An affectionate yell, of course.)
51% said your husband or significant other is one of your best friends.
22% said it’s your sister.
10% said it’s your mom. (Sorry, Dad. Only 1% claimed you.)
8% said your daughter is one of your besties. (Only 4% said son.)
How to Find Your Tribe
Seventy percent of respondents admitted they “often” or “once in a while” feel lonely because they don’t have the right kinds of friends. To seek out better bonds:
Follow your passions. “Take a Spin class, go to a wine tasting or start a neighborhood book club,” suggests Debba Haupert, founder of Girlfriendology.com. When you change your routine to incorporate activities you’re interested in, you’ll widen your circle. Not sure where to find events? There’s a group for virtually everything: A social networking site like Meetup.com can pair you with people who share your interests—or you may even discover a new hobby along the way.
Take a few risks. Sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone to start a friendship, explains Carlin Flora, author of Friendfluence:
The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are. Make the first move by asking coworkers to grab coffee or see a movie.
Get closer to those you barely know. Are there acquaintances through family, friends or work that you’d like to know better? Take those relationships to the next level. You might find out they’re just as interested in getting closer to you too. —SK
Barriers to Bonds
"I don't have enough time"is what almost 40% of you said was the single greatest obstacle to making friends as an adult. What else gets in the way?
17% said you lack self-confidence.
13% blamed your living situation.
11% said you weren’t looking for more friends.
5% cited a history of being rejected.