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Men's Health: A Women's Issue

Share Your Fears

Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your spouse, and try not to get emotional. Lillian Glass, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Understanding Men and Women (Alpha), recommends looking directly into your partner's eyes and telling him how much stress his health (or lack thereof) is causing you. Make sure you have his full attention. "He can't be clearing out the garage while having this discussion," says Glass.

Even if discussing his health gets you worked up, do your best to remain calm. "Crying won't help," Glass says. "Make a logical appeal, and it's far more likely you'll be heard."

Try these conversation starters:

  • "Our son is 15 years old, and I know you want to see him graduate from college."
  • "Do you ever stop to think about what holidays would be like if you weren't here with us?"
  • "Remember the places we want to go and things we want to do once the kids are out of the house? We need to be in good shape to do all that."

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