Q. I am raising my 13-year-old granddaughter and have no clue how to deal with this generation—their values are so different from mine, it seems that providing a safe and loving home isn't enough anymore. Help, please!
A. Forget the idea that being a grandparent means you're not credible. That's totally untrue—buy into it and your granddaughter may use your insecurity to manipulate you. Good family values are good family values, no matter what. That said, here are some books that may help: Rachel Simmons' The Curse of the Good Girl (Penguin); Michael Johnson's Best Friends, Worst Enemies (Ballantine); and Ron Taffel's Breaking Through to Teens (Guilford Press). But I want you to believe in all your own parenting wisdom too, because hard-earned knowledge never loses its relevance.
Originally published in the August 2010 issue of Family Circle magazine.