Q. My 16-year-old son has a girlfriend, but he has been spending a lot of time with another girl whom he calls his "best friend." Do you think I should get involved?
A. Sure. Start off with, "Maybe I'm seeing things the wrong way but I've noticed that you're hanging out with Mary. I love that you have strong friendships with girls but how does Anne feel about that?" He responds with, "Mom, it's no big deal. Don't worry about it." You say, "Well, it's normal to have strong feelings about two people at the same time, so if you want to discuss that, we can. The only thing that worries me is that you may be hurting somebody's feelings. This isn't about what I think of either of the girls. It's about how I expect you to conduct yourself in any relationship."
Originally published in the May 2007 issue of Family Circle magazine.