By Rosalind Wiseman
Q. What can I do to help my 13-year-old? She suddenly stopped talking to her best friend and won't say why.
A. This is one of those times when you can earn your child's trust by backing off. Tell her, "Look, I'm not going to lie. I'd really like to know what happened. But I realize you're getting older and I need to give you space. If you want to talk to me about it, I'm always available." Then walk away or switch the topic so you leave her with the feeling that it's up to her to make the first move. In my experience, when you recognize a teen's need for privacy, she becomes much more willing to share.
Originally published in the September 2008 issue of Family Circle magazine.