Has your teen started playing it cool? Chances are your reaction isn't the same as your husband's. Dads try to stay close by boosting independence -- giving driving lessons, offering job advice -- or with good-natured goofing around that takes the edge off teenage angst. Moms, on the other hand, tend to cope with the growing distance by spending more time with their kids and keeping up-to-date on every aspect of their lives. But with so many more working mothers and hands-on fathers, the gender gap is shrinking, according to researchers at Boston College. What's more, kids have already adapted and are now equally good at getting the hugs they need from both parents.