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Money Pits

Here are the most common teen money pits and the ways you can teach them to lessen the financial damage.

Money Pit: Clothing and Accessories

The Challenge: Your child needs clothes, but that doesn't mean $100 sneakers.

Before You Open Your Wallet: Together, write down what's needed and estimate prices. "Negotiate without arguing," suggests Jayne A. Pearl, author of Kids and Money (Bloomberg Press). If your daughter insists on five pairs of jeans when you think three will do, put two on the maybe list. Add up everything and then establish how much you're comfortable spending.

Money-Smart Strategies: Accompany a younger teen (with the list) to the store. Direct her toward sale items, and show her the cost of cool -- the premium paid for designer labels -- by comparing discount-store items with ones in the boutique area. If she still wants the more expensive items, either just say no or have her pay the difference.

For older teens, allot a seasonal clothing budget. Louise Morgenstern of Larchmont, New York, gives her teens a set amount but takes care of big-ticket essentials, like coats. She states her rules up front: "When the money's gone, it's gone."

Money Pit: Cell Phones

The Challenge: You consider a cell phone a safety item for staying in touch with your teen; your teen regards it as a social necessity.

Before You Open Your Wallet: Figure out what plan best suits your family's needs. Prepaid plans are most economical, but kids can easily use up their minutes. Linda Testino chose to pay per call and has one phone for her kids to share. (Who gets it is determined on a case-by-case basis.) If you usually talk to your kids from your cell phone, consider a family plan with multiple phones, an ample pool of minutes, and unlimited calling between family members.

Money-Smart Strategies: Explain when it's cheapest to make calls and discuss the extras that run up the bill, like downloading ring tones and games. "I'll only pay for the basics," says Pearl. "If Ryan goes over his minutes, he has to cover it."

Money Pit: Food and Entertainment

The Challenge: Burgers, smoothies, and movie tickets eat up your child's allowance, leaving him constantly broke.

Before You Open Your Wallet: "Kids need to track how much they spend each week," says Neale S. Godfrey, author of Money Still Doesn't Grow on Trees (Rodale). Go over the amount and estimate what's spent annually on everyday treats. Explain how, by eliminating a weekly $6 fast-food outing, he'd save up enough in a year to splurge on a "can't live without" item, like an iPod.

Money-Smart Strategies: Encourage your teen to think about the choices he's making and to set his own limits. Is it more important for him to eat out or go to the movies with his friends every time, or can he skip it now and then so he can afford something else later on? Maybe he can suggest cheaper alternatives, like splitting a pizza or renting. "I try to show my son how to cut back without sacrificing his social life," says Linda Testino of Dingmans Ferry, Pennsylvania. On the three nights her son has wrestling practice, teammates chip in $7 each for dinner for a total of $21 a week. "I told him he could order with them once a week, but he has to brown bag it the other two nights," she says.

Money Pit: Electronic Gadgets

The Challenge: Your teen begs for the latest video game system, MP3 player, or digital camera, arguing, "But everyone has one!"

Before You Open Your Wallet: "Remember, this is not an entitlement," says Godfrey. If you decide to let him buy it, have him cover part or all of the cost. "A large expense is a lesson in empowerment," she says. You're helping your child learn delayed gratification. And after seeing how long it takes to save up for something pricey, he may realize that he really didn't want it as much as he thought.

Money-Smart Strategies: Ask your child to search for the best deals in catalogs and online. Explain that if she waits until the latest model has been out a while, she may find it on sale. Also emphasize that electronic items quickly become obsolete, and inevitably, an even better one will be available.

Money Pit: Special Events

The Challenge: There's always some occasion coming up -- whether it's the prom, a sports camp, or a school trip. Not to mention that must-see ball game or concert.

Before You Open Your Wallet: Distinguish between enrichment and extras. Louise Morgenstern won't pay for sporting events or concerts, but will partially cover most educational trips and sports clinics as long as her kids kick in something, too. The amount is determined by the price, how long they have to save, and whether they have additional income from a job. "It's all about trade-offs and cost-sharing," says Bodnar. Let your teen choose the event that is most important to him. If he wants to go to soccer camp, then don't pay for a wrestling clinic, too. For proms and homecoming dances, Bodnar gives up to $100 toward the cost of a dress or tux rental, but items like flowers and limos are her kids' responsibility.

Money-Smart Strategies: Periodically remind her to start saving for upcoming events and help her calculate how much she'll need to squirrel away each month. Otherwise "your teen won't be thinking about what she owes until the day payment is due," says Godfrey. For something like prom, where costs can quickly spiral out of control, keep your teen focused on the meaning of the event, rather than the materialism. Then reassure her that you'll do everything you can to make these experiences possible -- and memorable -- but at a price tag you both can afford.

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