Teen parenting expert Rosalind Wiseman answers your tough questions.
My sister Zoe is 27, has no children and lives a fabulous New York life. She's visiting me in DC for a few days, and as I write this she's sitting here wearing the most fabulous Patricia Field dark pink glittering pants that perfectly match the color of her hair—well, two segments of it anyway.
You may think that my sister, with her lack of parenting experience and fabulous pants, wouldn't know how to hold her own with kids. That would be a mistake. Because Zoe knows my children will try to exploit every opportunity to get what they want.
Today she called me while watching my kids, and I was reminded of how cool it is when siblings provide crucial parental backup.
Zoe: Are they allowed to watch TV right now?
Me: Of course not. What did they say?
Zoe: I asked Roane (the 9-year-old), "Did you ask your parents if you could watch TV?” And he said yes. So I said, "Are you telling me the truth?" And you know what he said? "Do I have to be 100% positive about my answers?”
Me: He really said that?
Zoe: Yup. So I told him that while that was a very good answer and he's very cute, I was calling you to find out.
It was a small moment, really insignificant in the larger scheme of things. But such moments teach my boys some very important things about the adults in their family: We’re no fools. We will and do talk to each other. And although we love them unconditionally, that doesn't mean we believe them unconditionally.
Rosalind Wiseman helps families and schools with bullying prevention and media literacy. Her book “Queen Bees and Wannabes” inspired the hit movie “Mean Girls.” She writes the Ask Rosalind column for Family Circle.