A lot of us default to the old tried-and-true flower bouquet for mom on her special day, but flowers are not on these Reddit users' radar. Read on to see what they claim to "really" want.

By Family Circle Editors
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We combed this Reddit thread to find out moms' answers to the annual question: What does mom want for Mother's Day? (It's May 12, BTW.) We found some common themes, which we've listed out below. And if you still want to give mom something special, in addition to giving her something from this list, here are some ideas:


Tell us: What do you want for your special day?


I’d really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night. —AbJ1622

To wake up naturally, just once. I’d love it if I could just sleep and not have to get up to my daughter yelling out, or my alarm, or my fiancé coming in to ask me something when he’s offered to get up early with our kid. Just one day to wake up properly when my body decides its time to wake. — -kimbecile-

Sleep. Pure, uninterrupted sleep. —Kabira17

I'd kill for a full 24 hours of sleep (without hearing the baby crying, which wakes me up), for someone to catch up on the laundry, and bonus points if the house is cleaned. My baby is 3 months old. —Harmonie

Not Having to Plan the Day or Clean Before or After It

I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don't want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family. —GarnettGreen

After several years of telling my husband I didn’t care what we did as long as I didn’t have to clean the house in advance, plan it, or help clean up—and that never happening—last year I booked a spa appointment from breakfast to right before lunch. Texted my husband and said I was busy from 8am-11am and “where should I meet you and the kids for lunch?” It was perfect and I’m repeating this year. —BeBubbly

Rest & Relaxation


Someone to come deep clean my house.

Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink. —tastinginstereo

Quiet time to read a book. —hananobira

I don’t care if I get food from a place that I think is only mediocre as long as it magically appears in front of me.


A Clean House, Etc.

A day where I don’t have to do anything. No cleaning, washing, cooking. Four year old wants to go to the park? Not my problem. Six month old did a poo? Too bad. A day where I am not accountable for anything/anyone. And have beers at lunch. And cake for dinner. —magdejup

A day to myself with zero household obligations. —MrsSoundGuy

I feel like a terrible mom for my first thought being, "I want oysters, a new laptop bag and tickets to my favorite band because they will be doing a show here in a few weeks!" But...like...a clear house is also cool I guess.


Clean house (like real clean, not my bf idea of clean) and a nice card. —sausageroll90

To Eat Snacks in Peace

To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3 year old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away. —mrschukchuk

It. All.

Hot shower...the kind where you stay in so long the water gets cold.

Very good bottle(s) of wine.

Steak dinner I didn’t make.

And a real good orgasm ....a very very good orgasm...

Then a nap.....wake up house clean.

Is this for too much to ask?


A day off! Don't ask me for anything. Let me just go out with my girls and have a stress free night! —Phenguin4

To sleep. Take a bubble bath. Get new coloring books and eat junk food all day. —naniminna

A day all alone, in a spa, then a night alone in a hotel, and come home the next day to find a delicious meal and a super clean house. —Capt_Nettle