Q&A: My Daughter Is an Early Bloomer
Teen parenting expert Rosalind Wiseman on helping kids who've physically developed early maintain age-appropriate experiences.
Q. My daughter is a 10-year-old in a 15-year-old's body, and people often expect her to act more grown up than she's capable of. Is there any way I can help her stay a kid?
A. It's hard to be a girl in this situation because it's so confusing. She could hate the way people treat her, love it, or a combination of both. Whatever she feels, this will be a big issue for your daughter and you until she grows up. Your priority is to make sure her socializing is age appropriate. Soon she'll start getting invited to things happening for older kids, and you should say no without exception.
Meanwhile, teach her to be proud of what her body does, not how it looks and the attention she gets for that. Get her involved in activities where she can feel strong and capable.
Originally published in the September 2007 issue of Family Circle magazine.