This Is Kelly Ripa's "Concern" About Lola Going to College & It's So Us
Kelly Ripa is pretty candid about preparing her daughter Lola for college. The 18-year-old recently started her freshmen year at New York University. The proud celeb mom recently revealed her "concern" about her only daughter going away to college and it's the reality of mom life.
During an appearance on Ryan Seacrest's On Air With Ryan Seacrest, Ripa revealed, “College is where you start establishing yourself as an independent person, so when you send your kid goes off to college and your kid stays local … if she feels homesick, I have to say to her, ‘You can’t come home. You have to work it out.’” The Live With Kelly and Ryan star continued, “I treat it [like long-distance]. I did the same thing for my son. ‘You’re going to have to figure it out.’ My main concern was, ‘I don’t know if you should be this close to home because I don’t want you using home like it’s your home. I want this to be your experience.’”
Saying goodbye to our kids is a balancing act, and it's true that some kids can become homesick during the adjustment period. Laura Kastner, Ph.D., co-author of The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life, states, "Homesickness abates for most students by the second month. However, any child who has had emotional challenges in high school, especially ones involving anxiety and depression, may need extra support." A college health or counseling center could help ease anxiety and reduce stress. "Before parents spring into rescue maneuvers upon hearing a tirade of complaints, they should remember that students save their 'dump phone calls' for their parents, who are still their primary attachment figures. Students don't want to come off like wimps with their new friends."
Ripa's approach is loving and realistic. Working out the tough moments without running home to your parents is part of #adulting (as much as they try to avoid it these days). Can you relate to Kelly's confession? What have been some challenging moments of freshmen year for you?